I was always interested in being high-value. An "alpha male". I believe that every man deep down wants to be at the top of the social hierarchy.

It's like we intuitively know what comes with it.

• The respect.

• The abundance.

• The freedom of choice.

• The admiration.

• The women.

All of it. Reserved only for the top 1% of men. Leaving the rest to fight for scraps.

Every man, if given the choice, would want to be at the top.

But very few ever do.

In my early years, I spent a lot of time & effort learning how to come across as "high-value".

I trained myself to “act” a certain way. To achieve certain things.

Things that would make me "high-value".

Which backfired on me.

Fake High-Value Men vs Real High-Value Men

For the mainstream, being a successful man with a little bit of charm was all it took to be high-value.

• Make Money

• Get Jacked

• Brand Yourself

You're good to go. It works and still does.

The problem with this strategy is if you're anything like me, and you go through the process of doing all of the above.

You realize that internally, you don't feel any different. You don't feel high-value.

And you walk around with a mask on.

While you give the appearance of a high-value man at the top of the social hierarchy, you still feel like a little boy on the inside.

Desperate for approval. Yearning for validation. Ego more fragile than when you began.

And it's not your fault. It wasn't mine.

It’s not like we were given clear examples of what healthy, masculine, high-value men looked like.

Most men I looked up to growing up mastered the “acting” game . They got really good at hiding their insecurities from the surface. Masking them with accomplishments and storylines of grandiosity.

Clever illusionists, but illusionists nonetheless.

And as I grew older, I could see right through them.

No truly high-value man would sit around flaunting their achievements. Or talking down to others. Or being loud & flashy. Or trying too hard to be alpha.

That stuff was “cool” in high-school among teenagers, but it’s not how men are.

So I set a goal to:

1. Find men who were ACTUALLY High-Value

2. Understand what I needed to do to become High-Value (from the inside)

And that quickly changed my definition of what being a High-Value Man Means.

The New Definition:

Real High-Value Men are drastically different than what I previously thought.

– They are not as loud or extravagant.

– They are self-assured.

– They are secure.

– They are safe.

– They do not feel the need to prove.

– They do not rely on crutches.

– They do not rely on external validation to reinforce their worth.

– They do not ping their environments to see what the "right" thing to do was.

And most importantly, they do not bring others down. They’re not interested in being dominant.

They are compassionate, respectful men.

Their cups are full. Overflowing actually.

And it made so much sense to me.

How can you be High-Value if you're always looking at someone else to tell you how to be High-Value?

How can you be High-Value if you have to rely on crutches to reinforce your value?

How can you be High-Value if you always need other to give you validation that you are?

How can you be High-Value if you always feel the need to dominate others in order to feel good about yourself?

In essence, the difference between Fake High-Value Men vs Real High-Value Men is:

Fake -> Feel like boys on the inside, but try to act like men.

Real -> Feel like men on the inside, and don't feel the need to prove themselves to anybody.

A real high-value man is an Integral Man.

And we'll go into that in detail in a little bit.

At this point, I got to 3 conclusions:

1. There are certain principles that High-Value Men Embody

2. Faking being High-Value is MUCH Easier than Becoming High-Value (explains why people choose that route)

3. There are real drawbacks to being High-Value

Really? Yep.

Why You Don't Want to Be a High-Value Man

Being at the top is not all sunshine & rainbows. Especially when you're committed to doing it right.

If you're not trying to be a poser, there are drawbacks.

As a high-value man, people look up to you.

They perceive you as their leader.

They perceive you as a source of conviction and confidence. They follow you.

They wait for you to make decisions.

They depend on you.

And while that may sound orgasmic to the "little kid" ego inside, this sh*t is serious.

There are people...depending on you. And you don't want to let them down.

Being high-value comes with responsibility. Constantly. It comes with stress.

If you don't train yourself to tolerate high-levels of stress, you will crumble.

Which is...

Why It’s so Important to Be High-Value at the Core – and to drop any kind of act

To put it lightly, if you don't, you will feel like a liar & a fraud.

You’re doing this because you want to feel comfortable in your skin. Confident. Respected. Uninhibited. Relaxed.

If you're putting on a mask, that won't happen. You'll always be "trying".

And real High-Value Men will see right through you.

No real high-value man is following some guidelines on how to speak. And how to walk. And how to talk. And how long to maintain eye contact.

That stuff is cringe.

You don't want to be the little boy acting like a man, do you?

You want to do the real work to feel High-Value from the core.

And when you do that, you'll notice how different your experience of reality becomes.

That's also when your nervous system can keep up with being High-Value.

The stress. The attention. The responsibility. The demands. The consistency.

So…what does it take?

The 7 Principles of Integral Men

Integral Men are the rarest men in the whole world. It took me years of deep, advanced psychological & emotional work to understand what it means to be an integral man.

And it's going to be a lifelong process of forging the sword.

Integral Men are healed, strong, wild, secure, powerful men that are not only getting what they want from the world...

...they are a force for good.

They stand firm in their beliefs & are willing to stand up for what's right.

Educated. Disciplined. Courageous.

Think of an older, wiser king who has been through battles & have now become strategic, yet compassionate vs the naive warrior who is blinded by his ego & his sense of superiority which inevitably leads to his death.

You want to be the king.

Here are the 7 principles that will help you transform from the core.

After the 7 principles, I will share with you certain practices to EMBODY the 7 principles):

I. Loving Leadership — How to Have People Begging You to Lead Them

Loving leadership is a when you lead from a loving place.

Leadership is NOT being domineering.

Leadership is NOT being forceful.

It's when you are connected to compassion & love and allow your decisions to stem from there.

What's interesting, though, is that when you're connected to love – you naturally start leading more. Because you're not too worried about rejection.

You're not too worried about your ego. And your leadership stems from a pure place.

You're taking care of those around you. You're not using them.

And people can FEEL that. They like that. They want that.

Leading from a loving place will also create a lot of attraction & safety in women you interact with.

When you start embodying this, you will naturally find yourself rising into leadership positions in your social circles/work circles without really trying.

II. Relaxation — The Essence of Masculine Non-Reactivity

Insanely simple. Insanely powerful.

How relaxed are you? Use this as a litmus test.

Use this as a practice.

Remaining relaxed is not easy. It also requires a lot of awareness of the body & mind.

Be aware of how you tense up in social situations. In the presence of women. In the presence of other high-value men.

Notice how you may start to move around more. Look around more. Laugh when you don't want to laugh. Break under the tension.

and….just relaaaaax.

Keep practicing relaxation.

Over and over and over again.

Until your mind & body get completely rewired.

This is a practice. The more you learn how to go through life relaxed, the higher-value you will become.

This may make no sense to you right now, but when it clicks. It clicks.

1. Be Aware of Your Body & Mind at All Times

2. Relax

III. Effortless Competency

Develop real competency in domains that matter to you or domains you constantly find yourself in.

Be so competent that it feels effortless.

Competency is a strong masculine value.

You gotta be able to figure sh*t out if sh*t goes to sh*t, and if you lack competency...

...big problemo.

Get your hands dirty. Get competent.

IV. Security — Secure Attachment Style

Another aspect of being non-reactive is security. This is BY FAR the most attractive trait a man can embody.

Why? Because it makes you immune to manipulation.

And women only respect men they can’t manipulate.

If you're easily triggered. If you're easily angered. If you're easily made jealous.

1. You're gonna feel like sh*t a lot of the time

2. You're gonna be easy to manipulate

3. You will tolerate certain behaviour from people that you wouldn't otherwise tolerate

When you're secure, you have high self-esteem.

Which means you're not simping.

Which means you're not tolerating disrespect.

Which means you're not blinding yourself to redflags.

This makes you very stable, very difficult to manipulate, and attracts other secure people into your life.

This is difference between:

• Acting like you don't care about what other people think of you

• Actually NOT caring

I'll let you choose which path you want to take.

If it’s becoming secure:

V. Know Thyself — So You're Not Looking at Other Men for Direction

Get clear on your direction in life.

Get clear on your values.

Get clear on your vision.

Get clear on your life philosophy.

Get clear on your beliefs.

Get clear on who you are.

You cannot be High-Value if you're still trying to be like someone else.

Because what you’re basically saying, I'm not even a bit valuable, so I'll act like someone else who I think is better than me.

Start by getting to know yourself. Then OWN THAT.

Be radically authentic.

It's gonna be scary af, but that's what being high-value means.

This gets people wondering "Why is this guy so free?"

Get clear on who you are so that when you're in certain situations, you're not looking around to see how others act...

...you're looking within.

VI. Freedom

A high-value man is free.

Freedom comes in 2 layers.

Layer 1:

Free in terms of money.

Free in terms of time.

Free in terms of location.

Free in terms of expression.

What's interesting is that these 4 come together. Ultimate freedom is key here.

If you make so much money, have time & location freedom, but you're afraid of expressing yourself fully...you're not free.

If you have time, location, and expression freedom, but you're broke...you're not free.

Simple question. Can I do whatever I want, whenever I want?

Layer 2:

Freedom from attachment. The only man who is more powerful than the man who has everything is the man who needs nothing.

Can you use your desires & your pursuit of your desires as a spiritual practice to free yourself from attachment?

Here's a little secret: Your core masculine desire is to be free.

You think the kind of freedom you want is to have everything, but that's the ego blinding your "sight".

What you actually want is freedom from attachment, because deep down that's what ultimate freedom is.

VII: Courage

Courage is the fuel for all the principles that come before it. And the practices I will share with you in a bit.

You can not be free without courage.

You can no be relaxed without courage.

You can not lead without courage.

You can not be competent without courage.

You can not be secure without courage.

You can not know thyself without courage.

Why?

Because the application of these principles comes with the requirement that you step into a new identity.

The journey between your current identity & this new identity is not an easy one.

It will scare you & bring you to your breaking point. And without courage, you will retreat back to safety with your tail between your legs.

No meaningful progress could be made without courage.

How To Embody The 7 Principles:

By this point, I predict that most people would’ve already stopped reading.

Why would they listen to such advice in a fast paced, shallow world?

Why be a man of integrity when you can just take the fast-lane?

“Well…if everyone is doing it, why shouldn’t I?”

And that’s why they’ll never know what it means to be a real man.

BUT!

If you’re still reading, it's because something in you is telling you that this is the path.

And you're ready to take this journey.

So, if you're ready to implement those principles into your daily life and forge yourself into a real, high-value, integral man, read carefully.

1) Get Comfortable with Rejection:

Learn to get rejected. Make peace with rejection. This will make you unstoppable.

But it's also a practice most men will avoid because they don't want to break their fragile egos.

The goal here is to break through the fragility & introduce you to a grounded, unshakeable version of yourself.

If you can't take rejection with grace, you're not a man. Period.

Go sue me or something.

• Start asking for what you want.

• Follow your cringe.

• Do what scares you.

• Face rejection on a daily basis.

See a girl that you like, but afraid to say hi? Go say hi.

Want that client, but you're unsure how to ask them for their business? Just do it.

Want something from someone, but afraid they'll say no? Ask for it.

Slowly, you'll discover that it isn't the end of the world. And your sense of self will strengthen.

DO NOT SKIP THIS.

I can't tell you how many men I've come across who:

• Look like Greek Gods

• Make Tons of Money

• Drive Cool Cars

And still can't ask for what they want. Still crumble under pressure. Still can't go and say hello to a woman they like.

These guys don't play win, they play not to lose.

We don’t want to be like that.

Moving on.

2) Meditation + 6Rs

Incorporate a consistent and serious meditation practice into your life.

Start with 10 minutes, up to 20 minutes, up to 30 minutes...

...all the way up to 90 minutes a day.

That's when real identity change starts to happen.

Most of your "reactive" tendencies will disappear — deep. masculine. non-reactivity.

• You will suffer less often.

• You will get anxious less often.

• You will get overwhelmed less often.

• You will tolerate stress with ease.

• Your mind will start to be at peace.

When that happens, every single area of your life will transform.

This is the foundation for every other thing in here. If you're gonna take one thing only from this newsletter, take this.

Start meditating.

I follow a practice called TWIM.

In addition to 6Ring (watch the video to understand), all throughout the day.

Slowly, your mind purifies and nothing will scratch your peace of mind.

3) Authenticity & Integrity

The final practice to introduce into your life is authenticity.

Now, keep in mind. This is scary. This will make you tremble. This will make you cringe.

But this is what it takes. And it's not for everyone.

Authenticity, over a period of time, heals. It heals you emotionally & psychologically.

It also leads to a point where, after expressing yourself authentically for a while, you realize that "I'm High-Value" without trying.

I just am.

And when it clicks, beautiful things happen.

Here's why.

Everytime you're inauthentic. Everytime you hide an aspect of yourself or show another aspect way too much...

...you're rejecting parts of yourself. Abandoning parts of yourself. Disrespecting yourself.

No real high-value man disrespects himself. No real high-value man abandons his truth to impress some people.

You can't convince me otherwise.

Which is why a man cannot be high-value if he's inauthentic.

The Path Ahead

Everything I shared with you today is a result of over 6 years of advanced self-development, multi 5-figures of investments into mentors, and tons of trial and error.

I distilled everything down into a practice that you can take on today to create transformation from your very core so you can walk the world with you balls on your sleeve.

Where you don't have to hide any part of you.

A healed, wild, integral man who answers to nobody.

A man who has clarity on who he is and his direction in life.

A man who has done the work so he can show up in the world with a full cup, needs met and all. He's not out there trying to hurt everyone because he's hurt on the inside.

But what I need you to understand is that this path is not for the faint of heart.

95% of men would rather take the easy path & never confront their deepest fears & shadows.

Most men would rather keep building masks upon masks to hide the darkness within.

And that's fine, this path isn't for everyone.

But if you feel called to take it, be ready for one hell of a journey.

Here's to your future —

Omar Harb.